Good Messy

Sometimes being messy is the right thing to do. For example, this afternoon when the bell rang, and everyone rolled down to the landsports field dressed in their swimsuits, our goal was just that, to get as messy as possible. We were having a shaving cream fight! It doesn’t take much: a grassy field, about 200 cans of plain shaving cream, water hoses, upbeat music pumping through the speakers, and that familiar slip-n-slide sheet of plastic spread out on a gentle slope. Add a group of campers and counselors who already know each other extraordinarily well, and you’re set.

summer camp shaving cream fight

Today it took only about a minute for the field to erupt into joyful chaos. Girls were racing around, squirting white foam everywhere… all over each other, in their hair, on their shoulders, even on their faces, creating ridiculous foam mustaches and beards. The goal of a shaving cream fight is simple. Spray and be sprayed. It’s less of a fight and more of a party. No teams, no score, no winners or losers. Instead, it’s a fantastic flash of pure, uninhibited fun.

Soon everyone was covered head to toe in slippery white foam, looking absolutely ridiculous and loving every second of it. The youngest juniors shrieked with delight as they chased counselors. Seniors helped each other create the most outrageous foam hairstyles imaginable. Rockbrook folks of all ages were right in the thick of it.

Of course, all of this is absolutely hilarious. Being a part of it you can’t help but smile and laugh, the kind of all-consuming laughter that almost hurts. With the slip-n-slide action, girls launching themselves down the plastic sheet, tumbling and rolling with abandon, we had yet another layer of messy fun.

But here’s the thing. Getting messy this way is good for us. It’s good messy!

When you think about it, we spend most of our time trying to stay clean, composed, and put-together. We worry about our hair, our clothes, our appearance. We’re careful not to spill, not to smudge, not to get dirty, or leave things “out of place.” Certainly, this is important, but what happens when we throw all that caution to the wind, even for just a moment?

Something magical. Especially for kids. There’s an incredible sense of freedom to covering yourself in shaving cream from head to toe, looking absolutely ridiculous. And when everyone around you is equally silly, you can’t help but laugh at yourself. Suddenly all our usual worries about appearance just… dis-appear in the moment. Part of the energy of a shaving cream fight is the release we feel, the permission to simply be real.

In this way, getting messy is courageous. It requires letting go of control, of perfectionism, of caring what others think. Being surrounded by friends who are doing the same thing makes this all the more possible. A messy shaving cream fight helps everyone be less shy, less worried, less self-conscious. With no rules, we just do. With no critics, there’s a lot more joy.

This is why we keep having shaving cream fights at Rockbrook, session after session. Sure it’s about the fun, but it’s also about learning something. For young girls, it’s about learning there’s freedom and joy in being who you really are. Being messy, ignoring any notion of “perfect,” is a window into that authenticity.

In a world that so often demands perfection from our girls, sometimes the most radical thing we can do is (first remove their phone! then) hand them a can of shaving cream and say, “Go get messy.” Because in that mess, they discover something really valuable: the feeling of being completely, authentically, joyfully themselves.

camp shaving cream slide

Second Session Highlights Video

OK! You may have been waiting for it, and we’re thrilled to share it… it’s the latest highlights video from Robbie Francis of FrancisFilmworks. You might remember his videos from past years, going all the way back to 2015!

Robbie has returned this summer, once again working his filming and editing magic to capture the sweet interactions, vast activity, and overall feeling of life at camp.

It can sometimes be hard to grasp all that goes on at Rockbrook. But now’s your chance! Take two minutes to watch this video, and you’ll get a pretty good idea.

Enjoy!

Summer Thrills

Yesterday we took two groups of girls whitewater rafting on the Nantahala river, a group of Seniors in the morning and Middlers in the afternoon. Cool morning fog turned into absolutely perfect rafting weather with bright sunshine and warm temperatures, an ideal combination to buffer the 50-degree water. Both trips were equally lucky by avoiding the spotty thunderstorms that were forecast for the day.

camp rafting day

Weather like this adds to fun, the playful, silly, often hilarious ride along the river. These rafting trips are a complete blast! The 2-hour trip, from put-in to take-out, alternates between calm floating sections and heart-pounding splashy rapids that send the girls screaming and laughing with delight. Along the way, each boat poses for the camera, waving, making a “high five” with their paddles, or “playing dead,” for example. Of course, falling out of the boat is part of the experience, sometimes accidentally when the boat hits a rock unexpectedly, and sometimes intentionally as a chance to cool off. Either way, those left in the boat work together to pull the swimmer back aboard, all while roaring with laughter. This kind of camaraderie can’t be beat.

The final rapid, a thrilling Class-III double-drop called the “Nantahala Falls,” is an awesome finale. It never fails to deliver high intensity, wide-eyed screams as the boats drop in and are briefly engulfed in whitewater. At the bottom, the girls look at each other in disbelief. “Yeah! We made it!” Like all great adventures, there’s a sense of celebration, a true feeling of success, afterwards. It’s just one type of fun we enjoy at camp.

summer camp health hut

You probably haven’t heard, but we rebuilt the Rockbrook Health Hut this year. What was once a staff cabin called “2×4” had been converted into the camp infirmary back in the 1990s. It was a small building that served us well, but recently as our team of nurses has grown (now 5 per session) to meet the increasing health care needs of our campers and staff, we decided more space would be helpful.

We worked with a local architect, and now have a wonderful, perfectly suited building. Most significantly, we now have a dozen air-conditioned overnight beds, quarantine rooms, efficient medication storage, additional bathrooms, treatment rooms, nurses’ office and accommodations. My favorite part is the covered porch on the front, with its stone approach, outdoor lighting and seating. We love how the building turned out and are really happy that the entire Rockbrook community can now enjoy the upgrade. Be sure to stop by and see it the next time you’re at camp!

camp whitewater thrills

Stronger than you Think

As we launched into our first full day of activities at camp, it’s marvelous already. Literally, there are marvels everywhere. Girls are dancing and laughing, already singing as loud as they can, cheering with abandon. They’re stomping and skipping all over these Rockbrook hills making their way between shooting archery and rolling slabs of clay. They’re down at the barn tacking up horses and over at the Alpine tower climbing on belay. They’re swimming in the lake and playing in the sun. Looms are clicking and ukulele strings are being strummed. It’s astonishing how over there tennis balls zoom over the net, while over here girls zoom through the trees on the zipline.

With so many activities all happening simultaneously, it’s not surprising a typical day at Rockbrook is busy in this way. Everybody is involved. Everyone is switching gears between sports and the arts, between adventure and a surprise encounter with a friend. You might find it surprising, however, just how effortlessly your girls are taking to all this camp action.

It’s only the first day of camp, and they’re showing a natural openness to the challenges of new activities. It might be aiming her target rifle, or steering her tandem canoe, or cutting a piece of wood accurately. It might be mustering the nerve to join a square dancing line, or to “wet exit” after flipping upside down in a kayak. They’re not shrinking away from any of this, not giving in to perhaps little doubts or worries. No, instead they’re feeling the pull of supportive, caring friends, and giving everything a go. Along with simply being away from home, these girls are proving they’re strong.

I think that’s one of the best lessons kids learn while at camp. Around here success follows challenges, realizing “I did it!” follows “I’m not sure I can.” Let’s put it this way… Camp proves for kids, “You’re stronger than you think.” The result of realizing this strength is greater confidence and courage, both qualities we all hope kids can embody as they grow. Another way to say it is “camp is empowering.” It’s the perfect recipe for a young person, nowadays more than ever as uncertainties and worries seem all too common.

I’m sure you can tell from the photo gallery, but let me reassure you. Your girls are doing great. Truly marvelous.

summer camp square dancing

A Warmth that Lasts

We closed our first session as all Rockbrook Camp sessions have over the years: with a campfire we call our “Spirit Fire.” With the whole camp gathered around a blazing campfire, everyone dressed in their red and white uniforms, we paused to recognize our time together and consider what this means to us. This was a chance to sit shoulder to shoulder, even arm in arm, sing a few traditional songs and listen to campers and staff members alike speak about their camp experience this session. The warm glow of the campfire, the sounds of spring peepers and crickets all around, and the emotions of the moment combined to make a beautiful setting.

camp arm in arm friends

As campers and staff members stood to speak, we heard about camp being a “place like home.” One small Junior said it was so easy to make friends at camp, even with older girls. A new staff member said she’d never felt so loved by so many people at once. Every speaker provided a beautiful reminder of what we all cherish about Rockbrook.

This is camp with our very best friends, genuine support from a caring community, joyful silliness, singing and dancing, and more Nature than you can name. Just being here, together with each other, is what makes it special.

In a world that’s too often divided, racked by forces that isolate us from each other, this kind of community really is precious. Where else can we relax and be our true selves, fully knowing that we still belong no matter what? Where else can we celebrate each day, laugh with abandon, and feel this kind of positivity so deeply? Where else is there a carefree enthusiasm for just about everything? It’s true; camp is magical, and these campers have proven it.

Thank you everyone for being a part of this special place. Thank you parents for trusting us with your daughters, and for understanding the value of camp. Fortunately, even though we’re sad this session has come to an end, we’ll carry with us the Spirit of Rockbrook. Until we gather again next summer, may that spirit continue to warm us all.

closing campfire girls

Blast from the Past

Ask any Rockbrook camper to name something they look forward to at camp, and they’ll likely tell you about their session’s Banquet. Many will even tell you it’s their favorite event at camp, and therefore is something exciting just from the anticipation that builds throughout the session. The Banquet is held on the second to last night, so it’s a celebration of everything that’s grown while we’re here: the creativity, the enthusiasm, the joy, and of course the deep friendships that tie this community together. It’s a party unlike any other because it happens here at camp with all of these great people.

summer camp party decorations

The CA campers (our 9th graders) take on the task of creating the magic of this event. From the very first day of their session when they select a secret theme for the Banquet, they are planning and preparing. They make all the decisions about the program, their costumes, the music, the decorations and the food to be served.

They take this planning quite seriously too, with every detail receiving attention. Using painted banners, carefully arranged lighting, streamers, table decorations, and various props, the CAs completely reimagine the dining hall, transforming it into a colorful new world.

They transform themselves too, becoming elaborately dressed characters. This is a big part of the fun for the CAs. They love taking on new personalities and dressing their parts, all adding to the theme of the night. These characters perform as well, both in short skits that can unfold a plot, and in choreographed dance numbers. With carefully chosen music, again based on the theme, the whole camp enjoys seeing all of this come together.

On banquet day, the CAs cover the dining hall windows with sheets while they hang their decorations, rearrange the dining hall and get ready in costume. Everyone knows they’re setting up for the big event, but anticipation builds as the theme is still a secret. Cheers go up when it’s finally time to enter and discover the theme. Let the party begin!

This session’s banquet theme featured music, decorations, costumes and dancing from different historical decades as the CAs went back in time for a “Blast from the Past.” They told a story of a few travelers who go back in time to retrieve the Spirit of Rockbrook, going way back to find cavemen (all the counselors), flappers from the ’20s (when Rockbrook was founded), bobby soxers from the 50s, disco dancers from the 70s, jazzercise neon from the 80s, and skaters from the 90s. Groups of CAs represented each decade and performed dance medleys for us.

Between dance performances everyone was encouraged to get up and dance, turning the whole event into a massive dance party. Eat something (chicken tenders, tater tots, salad), dance and sing, pause for photos, take in the extravagance (so much glittery confetti!) —that’s how it went.

The banquet ended, as it has for decades at camp, singing the song “Rockbrook Camp Forever.” The girls stood, arm-in-arm, singing “friends true and faithful” over and over again. Hugging each other tightly, you could sense the real meaning of the banquet. It’s about friends celebrating each other, knowing deep down that they are loved. For all of us, Rockbrook is a home like that.

Thank you CA girls for a wonderful banquet. We all loved it.

First Session Highlights Video – Part Two

Robbie Francis of FrancisFilmworks spent another day this week filming at Rockbrook, and now has edited this wonderful highlights video for us. Once again it’s a window into the upbeat action that fills our days at camp. The video does a great job of depicting the mood of camp, the friendship, the laughter, and the huge variety of fun.

Take a look, and see camp in action!

A Camp Mindset

It’s easy these days to sense that something special is happening at camp. Now as the session has “matured” a bit, it’s even more apparent. By “matured” I mean there’s a greater sense of ease in the air, a feeling of relaxing into the rhythms of camp life, a normalizing of sorts. The girls have made more friends, opened up to the new experiences offered in the activities, and become more comfortable in our rustic outdoor environment. They’ve begun to feel included, treated with kindness and respect, brought closer by a community spirit that’s enthusiastic and supportive. As they become more familiar with camp, their confidence has grown tremendously. They’ve adopted a “camp mindset” of sorts, a way of being colored by all these wonderful qualities.

summer camp lake play

This maturing, however, takes some time. When they first arrive at camp, girls are generally more hesitant. They’re usually a little nervous about their place in the group and how they’ll do away from home. Even for seasoned campers, there’s a different mindset that takes a few days to fade.

I wonder if we can attribute this to school. Perhaps these campers are arriving with a “school mindset,” a way of thinking, or a collection of assumptions that’s clashing with what camp represents. As you know, for many kids, school can be a grind, something that requires careful steps, regular effort with competitive undertones, and often includes guarded engagement out of a fear of peer judgment. It requires a great deal of individual work, pressures to perform, and evaluations. While there may be certain legitimate educational goals this mindset serves (though that’s debatable), it’s also a burden.

With school occupying so much of their lives, it’s no wonder girls arrive at camp a little out of sorts. They’re being trained to approach the world in ways that don’t apply at camp. In a way, this is the project of camp— to unwind some of the habits and assumptions taught in school, to encourage a more genuine, playful and joyful approach. Camp is here as a form of relief.

We might be running around camp painted in colors searching for counselors. We might be dressed as Greek gods and goddesses. We might be sleeping in the forest in hammocks, or just floating in the lake in a tube. In all these activities and more— throughout our days— we’re building a “camp mindset,” a way of authentic connection, a freedom to explore, and a lightness everyone finds refreshing.

When you pick up your camper at the end of the session, I bet you’ll notice this change. In addition to the memories of camp being fun, and the many friendships they’ve made, my hope is that your girls will return home carrying their camp mindset with them. And while the pressures of school will inevitably creep back in, I hope they can move through the world with more camp confidence, camp values, and Rockbrook spirit.

girls summer camp chickens

Passionate Communicators

A friend of mine asked the other day how camp was going, and I said, “Great! There’s so much good stuff going on.” On the one hand, it’s obvious if you take a look at the photo gallery. You’ll see girls engaged in a huge variety of activities. They’re outside riding horses, shooting archery, and rolling kayaks. They’re climbing rocks and playing tennis, weaving fabric into stuffed animals, tying and dyeing t-shirts into amazing colorful patterns. They’re swimming in the lake and doing back flips in gymnastics. They’re eating a fresh-baked muffin each morning and taking time for a brief rest after having lunch. They’re bathed in sunshine and sometimes pausing for the rain. They’re singing and dancing, and dressing up in a costume just for the fun of it.

Of course, there’s much more than that going on at camp, more good stuff that can’t be seen in the photo gallery. We could point to the friendships being formed and strengthened, the subtle strides toward greater self-confidence, and perhaps a refreshed appreciation for the natural world. I’m often amazed by the sense of freedom that the girls feel when they realize that kindness and caring are what matters at Rockbrook, that they can be more genuinely themselves when they’re not afraid of being judged. Life at camp just feels really good, so good, they can’t help but smile.

Hammock conversations

There is still something else happening that I think is a significant good for everyone here. It’s pretty simple, but also pretty constant, and that’s all the in-person conversation we enjoy. This is easy to imagine. Throughout the day, during certain activities, the girls are listening to each other, sharing stories, chatting about whatever is on their mind. They might be playing tetherball or gagaball, working on a needlepoint project, or even splashing through whitewater in a raft, but they’re also face-to-face with friends. During their free time, they might be just “hanging out,” or exploring the creek for example, but they’re usually engaged in easy conversation with whoever happens to be nearby. It’s one of the pleasures of camp: always having an opportunity for enthusiastic, interested conversation.

How different from ordinary life! And you know why? Ordinarily, I think most people don’t have this opportunity because our personal devices have taken over. Our smartphones have isolated us from others, making this kind of real-world conversation rare… at best, occasional. With a screen to look at, with the ding of notifications calling, how many of us are having meaningful conversations? Even in a room full of teenagers, if they all have their phones, are they connecting with each other? At the very least, we’re all distracted and interrupted by these devices, undermining whatever in-person communication we might be lucky to have.

summer camp conversations

I have to wonder how a smartphone in every young person’s hand is holding back their ability to communicate, hindering this critical skill. Like anything else, conversation takes practice. Sure, it might be “awkward” at first, but if we retreat to the safety of text messaging, or some other emotionally sanitized electronic communication (emojis!), something is definitely lost. If kids are too quick to shrink from in-person conversations, I think they’ll struggle to form meaningful relationships. It will be harder to connect with others and to discover how much another person truly cares for you. After all, it’s only through heartfelt conversation that we can grow closer to each other. If your smartphone is always first, if your main outlet is social media, what are you missing? I’d argue, it’s a lot.

This is yet another reason why camp is great. By ditching our screens and offering an endless parade of opportunities to have conversations with loads of other people, we’re training passionate communicators. Camp provides real world examples of the rewards that spring from genuine conversations— the rich connections, the array of emotions, and the lasting satisfaction of it all. It might not show up in the photo gallery, but there’s a joy here too.

whitewater rafting teenagers