Good Messy

Sometimes being messy is the right thing to do. For example, this afternoon when the bell rang, and everyone rolled down to the landsports field dressed in their swimsuits, our goal was just that, to get as messy as possible. We were having a shaving cream fight! It doesn’t take much: a grassy field, about 200 cans of plain shaving cream, water hoses, upbeat music pumping through the speakers, and that familiar slip-n-slide sheet of plastic spread out on a gentle slope. Add a group of campers and counselors who already know each other extraordinarily well, and you’re set.

Today it took only about a minute for the field to erupt into joyful chaos. Girls were racing around, squirting white foam everywhere… all over each other, in their hair, on their shoulders, even on their faces, creating ridiculous foam mustaches and beards. The goal of a shaving cream fight is simple. Spray and be sprayed. It’s less of a fight and more of a party. No teams, no score, no winners or losers. Instead, it’s a fantastic flash of pure, uninhibited fun.

Soon everyone was covered head to toe in slippery white foam, looking absolutely ridiculous and loving every second of it. The youngest juniors shrieked with delight as they chased counselors. Seniors helped each other create the most outrageous foam hairstyles imaginable. Rockbrook folks of all ages were right in the thick of it.

Of course, all of this is absolutely hilarious. Being a part of it you can’t help but smile and laugh, the kind of all-consuming laughter that almost hurts. With the slip-n-slide action, girls launching themselves down the plastic sheet, tumbling and rolling with abandon, we had yet another layer of messy fun.

But here’s the thing. Getting messy this way is good for us. It’s good messy!

When you think about it, we spend most of our time trying to stay clean, composed, and put-together. We worry about our hair, our clothes, our appearance. We’re careful not to spill, not to smudge, not to get dirty, or leave things “out of place.” Certainly, this is important, but what happens when we throw all that caution to the wind, even for just a moment?

Something magical. Especially for kids. There’s an incredible sense of freedom to covering yourself in shaving cream from head to toe, looking absolutely ridiculous. And when everyone around you is equally silly, you can’t help but laugh at yourself. Suddenly all our usual worries about appearance just… dis-appear in the moment. Part of the energy of a shaving cream fight is the release we feel, the permission to simply be real.

In this way, getting messy is courageous. It requires letting go of control, of perfectionism, of caring what others think. Being surrounded by friends who are doing the same thing makes this all the more possible. A messy shaving cream fight helps everyone be less shy, less worried, less self-conscious. With no rules, we just do. With no critics, there’s a lot more joy.

This is why we keep having shaving cream fights at Rockbrook, session after session. Sure it’s about the fun, but it’s also about learning something. For young girls, it’s about learning there’s freedom and joy in being who you really are. Being messy, ignoring any notion of “perfect,” is a window into that authenticity.

In a world that so often demands perfection from our girls, sometimes the most radical thing we can do is (first remove their phone! then) hand them a can of shaving cream and say, “Go get messy.” Because in that mess, they discover something really valuable: the feeling of being completely, authentically, joyfully themselves.